We have a new member! Please welcome Helen
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Helen, Welcome to the Myositis Support Group Discussion Board!
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Welcome to the world of friends and support! We are here for you anytime! I've already gotten help and I'm new heretoo! God Bless You! Warm Regards, Cindy
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Welcome Helen, feel free to be a part of this great family... One of the best around... Kelly is a hard working webmaster, and Jim, is great with his Vast Knowledge on the subject... hugs karen
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Welcome to the site, Helen. You are among the best Myositis people in the world who are very knowledgeable and offer great advice and comfort. Y'all, come on in and feel at home. Jim
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GLAD TO FIND YOU! :-(
Hello, I just found this website and it has relaxed me a bit since my physicians are trying to figure out if I have fibromyalgia or IBM. I have been hurting since my heart surgery in 1995 and all anyone ever said was "oh really" which makes me angry. The past two years have been very hard on me because I was demoted for missing work and was told "we will put you in a position where it doesn't matter if you are here or not" and it stressed me so much that I quit. I have felt like a "complainer" and have kept alot of feelings to myself. There are times I can not walk "down" the stairs, type, write my name, etc... and I am so glad that someone is out there who does understand and that I'm not crazy. My lung has hurt me for 5 years, I can't swallow nor can I breathe at times. I was on 200 mg of Tricor and they immediately took me off the medicine. Prior to that I was on Zocor, then Lipitor. Since my heart is a muscle, this disease frightens me ... and I know all about "pushing forward" through difficulties, because I went through heart surgery and fought to live... now it looks like another battle.. doesn't it? Thank you for listening. I appreciate everyone out there and I know God will have mercy on us.. since we are his children.
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Cindy, if you need information on job related stress and harassment, boy do i know... YOU must document everything and there is a law now, with family leave, as long as you document everything and require it to be put on family leave act they can not fire you. They may ask you to take disability.. if you would like more info, just ask.. Ok.. its a long process... with work.. But i have decided that its not the actuall work, its the B******* that employers put you through.. Believe me, i have been doing it for 2 years.. and the top guy Postmaster worked with me.. when he went on meetings the other supervisors harrassed me.. We have a new Postmaster now. and basically he said he would work with me to a point, but already he has changed my hours, and told me, if it becomes overwhelming i would have to take disability..at their request. But i have put in 19 years at the post office, and 10 years outside prior to. If you can look for the website "americans with disabilities act" this is a little too long for the board, but my EMAIL IS MOST certainly open.. hugs karen
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Hi Again Karen, I had many problems at work, due to my heart but now they think it's because of my muscles, etc... and of course, the people at work don't ever have any consideration... they just compare you to what THEY would do if they were sick, and they would come to work, and they would.. you know what I mean! I'm not a mean person and I guess I let all the stress of the situation get to me. I had to take nerve pills.. informed the Superintendent of what was going on, and he turned everything around (I was on a team with 2 younger males) saying I wasn't there to answer the phone so the other two couldn't do their jobs. I quit.. I have been unemployed for 1 year without any income. I am waiting for this specialist to tell me what I definitely have since I understand disability is very hard to come by (?). Are you exerienced in the "filing disability" part? I couldn't even get it with my heart problems so I do worry about this one.
Of course if I can work I'd do it... but the absences from work speak for themselves... it's a "no no" for anyone else but when it happens to the higher up execs, well now, that's a totally different situation. HELP! Hugs to You Too!
Cindy
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If you document the absenses, 4 or more, under family leave with a doctors note THEY CAN NOT FIRE YOU. you can get 12 unpaid (or paid if your company allows it) EVERY YEAR. I was lucky and over the years, i had accumulated 9 to 10 months of sick time, so i was never out of time, I still have about 280.00 hours left or so... What i mean by 4 is four days in a row, not one here, one there. So i always made mine in a weeks, with doctor visit. And when i could not walk, the doctor would fax a note, and i would follow up with doctor, when i was able to walk or someone would bring me. Everyone is covered under family medical leave act, just not everyone gets paid, its 12 weeks every year... you lose the remaining the next year and start with 12. I have absolutely NO discipline in my record for attendance, nor anything for that matter. hugs Karen
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Oh, by the way, co workers will never understand. I have brought JIMs book to work along with his myositis news letter... Just accept the fact, that " where ever you work, your co workers do NOT PAY YOUR SALARY. Ignore them, unless they are truly interested in your welfare and health.. let that go at work, it will stress you out more. hugs larem
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You must push for a diagnosis. Then you can really roll, You have seen him i believe for something with the heart. Please, document everything, it helps your case. Have your doctor note disability.. I mean you can't do such things. this is hard for me not being able to see your post...Have a heart to heart talk with this doctor and tell him exactly where you stand.. If your sick, they should put a lable on it..If you can;t work, well let the doctor note that also.. anything noted by a professional will help your case.. You cant live on nothing..Don't give up, plese, email me and i can answer more to your questions, since the board is temporarily not having the post to reply. I don't have a good memory myself.. hugs, Karen.. You have to have money to survive on, and i would start with the doctor ok?? and then we can start from there. I can advise, but remember i am not a doctor..... hugs Karen
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having problems with the site, does not have message at the top and the original favorites, can not access./.. ?? karen
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Hi Cindy,
I join Janet in welcoming you on board.It's a safe haven here.We understand your symptoms and how serious they are.The ones who consider it complaining have no idea of what their talking about.I had problems pushing the door open at work and that's hard for others to understand but,in their defense, it is a rare and strange disease.Our Karen can tell you about problems at work.Sorry about your heart problems.You've had more than your share of things to deal with.We look forward to your post and hope we can be of help.
Hugs,
Jan
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Jan, I briefed Cindy on my experience, unfortunately or fortunately for that matter one supervisor is going through some major illness right now. I never wish anyone ill harm, but the old saying "what goes around comes around" The new postmasters wife is dealing with something because he had mentioned his wife has been on 4 years of chemo.. But he even though he is new, I can not blame... Its always been the lower management that gave me the stupid little problems... But i feel its time, anyway, i can always do something in the career line of computers part time home or out close if i want later on down the line.. hugs karen
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Karen,you did a great job explaining work related problems with these diseases.I had my share of problems before I quit working but it was a relief not having to struggle to work every day.My boss was very understanding because he was dealing with emphysema at the time but some of the other employee's were not.They think you're getting special favors or lazy.I'm glad you finally decided about leaving. Good luck with your teeth.
Jan
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Jan, thats another point, which you have to turn a deaf ear... When you are back at work, the employees think you are being favored... Unless you walk around with a tissue box or get sick at every waste basket, forget it.. AND the times i had trouble walking and stayed, management asked me to leave because i was a safetly liability.. I made it my point on those days to strut (waddle) in front of EVERYONE to show them what it does.. I do not leave poly at the workplace front door when i go home. They saw it but never helped me, and when i was better, they could care less...I think by struggling with these last two years, have changed my personality somewhat, and i don't let anyone on the outside push me around. It helps to bring a cane with you when you go out also..people in Northern NJ are always in a rush..I just can't go that fast anymore. Sometimes i brought it to work, on the bad snow days. Eventually we are all going to take ill as we get older, it may not be poly, but everyone has forgotten especially the healthy ones that their time will come also, hopefully for most people it will be well into their lives..I never thought that in my thirties, i would be like this.. but i have also had diabetes since age 11... inherited.. hugs karen
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Hi Cindy, I'm sure that I speak for everyone when I say that we're glad that you found us, too. I was diagnosed with DM in '97. We didn't have a computer at home at the time, and I thought that I was the only one who knew what I was going through. My husband started printing me information off of the internet, on his computer at work. Only then, did I realize that I wasn't alone. Please don't ever feel like you're complaining here. This is a wonderful place to share our joys and sorrows, or just commiserate. Blessings and healthy wishes...Janet
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Please welcome a new member Cindy Kain!
| Posted by Webmaster , 2001/03/20, 21:02:05 |
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Cindy Kain, Welcome to the Myositis Support Group Discussion Board!
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Welcome, Cindy - We are glad you found us, too. Welcome to the friendliest Myositis support groups of the Internet. Just make yourself at home, knowing you are among caring friends. So, welcome, y'all.
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Where is the rest of the thread?
| Posted by RalphB ® RalphB (JDMS Dad) , 2001/03/20, 18:32:57 |
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Something seems to have happened to the BB, or maybe it is just me doing something weird. For the purposes of BB messages, a "thread" is the name for a message plus all the replies to it. It used to be that when you clicked on a message, all the replies to the message would appear at the bottom of that message so you could follow the thread without having to pop up to the main screen. I am not seeing that any longer, just the message I selected. Are other people seeing this, or is it just me? Jim? Kelly? Ralph
Ralph Becker - JDMS Dad - Milford, MA <ralphb@whoever.com>
Moderator, JDM Board
Julia's JDMS Diary
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Hello Ralph, I have been up all night trying to figure out why it's not listing the original thread with the links below like it used to. I'm going to e-mail the board software company later today to try and figure it out. I've also taken off the indent command somehow but my eyes are crossed at this point so I'll fix that later today also. I'll post another message when I get it figured out. Kelly
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Ok it is not just me.... thanks Kelly you are doing a fine Job... all the best Karen
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Hi Ralph, I asked the same thing in message 478. I used to be able to click on "View All" which appeared between "Recommend" and "Refresh" in that box below a post that starts with selections for /Author Profile/ Edit/ etc. Now there is nothing there, and no responses below. Last time that it was working right was in Frankie's post regarding "liver biopsy". I thought that perhaps it was just me. I hate having to keep hitting my "back" toolbar thingie. Blessings...Janet
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HAPPY SPRING
to everyone...happy first day of spring..here in the northeast the anticipation of longer daylight hours and the renewal of life of trees, plants and woodland creatures can really lift the spirit...speacial this spring our family awaits the arrival of grandbaby number 6....due date today, but nothing yet...hope you all have a good day... regards Ann
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Dear Ann, This past weekend we noticed the first Texas paintbrush blooming in the pasture, right where we plan to build our new horse barn. I'm taking it as a sign from God. We've had so much rain...over 8 inches already this year, and most of farm is pretty soggy. I was pretty sure that this was the best place for the barn...now I'm definitely sure of it! Anyone passing through Central Texas during the months of April and May must come visit my farm. We have 40 acres. Most of it covered with bluebonnets, sprinkled with many, many other varieties of wildflowers. Our front pasture is usually a sea of blue during this time. While we were building our house, I tried taking a picture of each variety of wildflower...used 2 rolls of film and still didn't get 'em all. You're so blessed...I can't wait to be a grandmother! But I guess I'll have to be patient. My children are just 13 and 15 years old. There was a time that I didn't think that I'd live long enough to see my children grow up, yet alone grandchildren. Things are definitely looking up! Blessings and happy, healthy wishes...Janet
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Ann, i lovely word in my book Spring. I am praying for the grandchild of Number 6 to be a very healthy baby.. as for the weather, we could see a little white stuff tomorrow, but then mostly rain... I am trying to even stay up now a little longer, increasing this week by an half hour... but i do get up anywhere from 4 to 4 30, so i can be home by 3 15 pm. Soon that will be over, I must use any remaining time yet. I did not mind going in, but i know by tomorrow i will want out.. getting teeth done again. 4 more this time... I am finishing my teeth prior to disability... sometime late april.... hugs karen
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Hi, Ann: The fruit trees have lost their blooms and now leaves are forming. The redbuds and dogwood trees will be in all their glory about two weeks before Easter. It is good to see the squirrels running around the lawn and hearing the birds singing, and the doves cooing. I hope mother and child will be fine. To shop for two teen age grandchildren nearly puts us into bankruptcy at birthdays and Christmas. But to have to buy for six grandchildren must be mind-boggling to you. Good hearing from you again.
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Hello everyone. Greetings from upside down at the bottom of the world! Our days are getting shorter and there is a smell of autumn in the air. My sasanqa camellias are almost in full blooom and the wattle birds are having a wonderful time demolishing the flowers. Question is where did I put the doona? Sydney winter is not hard to take, but you must be relishing the warmer days. Hope they bring strength and better health,
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Mary,
What in the world is a "doona"?
Jan
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Ha ha ha! I thought that one would trick you! It's an eiderdown, or feather filled bed quilt. Sometimes they are filled with wool or polyester. What do you call them?
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Mary,you are devilish.You knew that would drive me crazy.I call mine an electric blanket because that's all I use but others might have a comforter on their beds.I wish I had an equally clever name up my sleeve,our Mary Mary.
Jan
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To Jan and all, I used to delight in an electric blanket until this wretched disease hit full on. Talk about the the Princess and the pea! I just couldn't stand the feel of the wires, so I bought one where the wires were embedded in a fleecy overlay. Still no good. I had to put it on the spare bed, not that I encourage overnight visitors these days! Now I have an ordinary sprung mattress with a foam overlay like an egg carton and I have a lambswool mattress cover over that and I find I can cope. If it is really bad I take the lamskin I use on my scooter and lie directly on it. Does anyone else have this ridiculous sensitivity or am I just, as a good Aussie, trying to prop up the wool industry?
Mary
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Mary-
I went through a spell where the tips of my fingers would hurt if I touched even a soft blanket.It was an awful feeling and can't imagine my whole body doing that.
How awful for you!! Does the neurontin help any?My legs and feet are always cold and I use my electric blanket year round.But your wool sounds good to but I would need it still on the sheep to stay warm.
Hugs,
Jan
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I love the sound of the birds in the early am.. but this last month, i have a mourning glory, that awakens at around 3 am...so i end up putting my soft earplugs in.. Just a tad to early for me to arise at that hour. 7 am is more reasonable, or even 6 am... all the best in the spring for us.. karen
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Karen-
My birds have been unruly this year.They carry on all night in the tree outside my son's room and he complains they keep him awake.My dogs give them a fair run for the money.
Jan
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Ann- It's beautiful here.My birds are singing and talking to each other.A Happy Spring Day to everyone.Congrats when that new grandbaby arrives.
Jan
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Jan, the only thing sad, though, is my dad passed away 5 years ago, tomorrow March 21, 1996. It was spring on that day.. but he is in a better place.. I believed he had a form of myositis too, towards his last 5 years.. But, this is all i am saying... still feeling rather good. Can't wait to leave the work stress. Its not the work, its the stuff that goes along with it.. I will be off again in another day. yeah !!!!!!! until next tuesday again...
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Karen,sorry about your Dad.It must be a sad day for you but try to remember the good times you had.Maybe the nicer weather will make going to work a little easier for you.No worrying about slipping on ice.
Jan
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Hello everyone- My wrist have gotten so weak I can barely pick up the lightest thing.Spilling things is a given and I can only manage about a quarter cup of liquid in a paper cup with a straw.Anyone else this weak? I cannot get my strength back since the flu and bronchitis. Cup challenged,
Jan
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Hi Jan,
If you're fingers are still strong you might try wearing a "splint" like they use for carpal tunnel. It stabilizes the wrist and allows it to rest even during use. The splints are usually available at drug stores, etc. Of course this will work only if you have some strength in your arm and fingers.
Thank you again for all the good info you shared a few weeks ago. I am learning so much about mysotis by reading this BB.
Judy Judy DM/CA
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Hi Judy,
I had considered a splint but you're right,I have no strength in my fingers or arms.I may try a splint just to see if it will stabilize my wrist.It use to be weak but now it wants to bend when I pick up things.You guys are so sweet.It does wonders just to wake up to so many replies and concern.That gives me strength of another kind.
Thanks,
Jan
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Dear Jan, Any chance that it might not be related to PM, but possibly carpal tunnel syndrome in your wrist. My hand doesn't get weak, but does go numb if I've spent too much time at the computer. I know that with DM, weakness is usually proximal to distal, with weakness usually more in trunk and shoulders, hips, etc. With PM, are your hands and feet affected? The only problem that I ever had in my feet was due to "foot drop" from being bedridden for so long. The DM has never affected my hands. Is there anyway that you can prop up a sport bottle with a straw nearby, so that all you would have to do is move your head to get a drink of water? Promise me that you aren't drinking hot coffee! Healthy wishes...Janet
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Hi Janet,
I do have my coffee but not hot enough to burn.I spilled it on my key board but did not damage it.I do have a table that they sit my cup on and I sip with a straw but even half a sandwich is a juggling act.My dogs love every minute of it.They usually get well rewarded but it saves on clean it.They catch it in mid air.I have slowly become weak all over my body.I also have drop foot on my left foot.I was fitted for a brace but I was not strong enough to walk with it.I suspected it would be to heavy but a persistent salesman talked me into it. I also have sjogren's, osteoporsis,psorasis,and I suspect run of the mill arthritis because of joint pain. I hope your feeling better and getting some rest.Thanks for your concern.
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Jan
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Jan - I'm sorry about your weak wrists, but that seems to happen to most of us. I can't lift a pot of coffee with one hand. So far, my typing hasn't been affected. In driving, my left arm and wrist are the weakest even with power steering. As for braces - When I was in the hospital, the doctor insisted that molded braces be made for me. One came up to my knee. The other up past my ankles. After nearly killing myself trying to wear those things, I guess my wife threw them away because I said I would never try that again. The wrist weakness depends on how tired I am. I've heard of no medication of any value for weak wrists. (Those wrist braces make me feel like I'm totally an invalid. Forget those!)
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Jim-
My wrist have always been weak but the bending is a new thing.My granddaughter wore my brace around to play in.That was a mighty expensive toy but because it's molded just for your leg and foot, it is of no use for anyone else.Such a waste!
Jan
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Not quite as bad, but is anyone Pill challenged.. I cant seem to lift the pills off the table or flat surface for nothing.. I have problems when it comes to cooking, i can't stir for too long, nor can i lift a normal pan with something in it.. so yes to a degree i am slightly challenged like that.. I do get plenty of "dropsies" I constntly drop things... hugs karen
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Hi Karen;
I usually have better luck with my tongue than my fingers.I lick the silly pills out of the palm of my hand.I improvish as I go along.
Jan
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Jan, i am just a Klux. I have been able to access the normal way on the board, so its my machine--- for that.. any way looking forward to having mom here and to view the BEST SITE IN THE WORLD. AND DON'T YOUR FORGET IT JIM.. no matter what.. I also think its time to upgrade to a newer machine.. maybe when mom gets here, and sunday, i will be able to purchase, and everyone will be able to help me lift it up the stairs... I upgrade every year.. hugs karen
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hi jan...sorry to hear of lifting problem..i'm not so good on that score myself...i think to myself these days how happy i would be to have one really good functioning strong arm...it would make so many things easier...even with all the other weakness..oh well...thank goodness for books, tv, and now the internet..if things get too difficult on the computer..it's nice to know programs are available where little or no hand use is needed...maybe down the road.. hope you bounce back a little more from your flu etc. aftereffects ...happy spring...Ann
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Hi Ann, My typing ability concerns me but I hope for the best.If it's not one thing it's six of another.You hang in there too.
Jan
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Transition from injected to oral MTX
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Hi gang, It's been awfully quiet in here lately (guilty). I hope everyone is doing well. Julia just dropped her Methotrexate dose from 20 to 17.5 mg/week via subcutaneous injection (which we administer at home). I expect that we will be transitioning back to oral MTX next month instead of taking another dose drop. If not, then certainly in the following month or two. Has anyone had anything unexpected happen because of the transition from injected to oral MTX? Ralph
Ralph Becker - JDMS Dad - Milford, MA <ralphb@whoever.com>
Moderator, JDM Board
Julia's JDMS Diary Related link: Julia's JDMS Diary
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Ralph, i find that something gets lost or the mtx is not as strong in the oral form as it is the injected way.. I do my own also... I am doing the equivalent of 1 cc., which i believe is around 8 to 10 pills.. I take two insulin needles that amount to 50 units each, so that is one hundred units. The injected has worked wonders for me. Also, you may discover more digestive problems on the oral mtx... that is the main reason why i like the injected form.. I hope i was of help... all the best Karen
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Hi Karen, Yes, 1cc = 1ml = 10 2.5mg pills = 25mg of Methotrexate. You are right that oral MTX is not quite as potent as injected. Julia's doctors consider switching from injections to oral as a tapering step, so she's going form 17.5mg injected to 17.5mg oral after this week's and next week's injections. Julia took oral MTX for over a year before we switched to injections. She didn't have any problems with it then, and we are hopeful that we will not now. Thanks for your advice, Ralph
Ralph Becker - JDMS Dad - Milford, MA <ralphb@whoever.com>
Moderator, JDM Board
Julia's JDMS Diary
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Hi, Ralph - Who's the happiest? Julia or her dad about changing to oral MTX? It sounds like Julia is coming along well. Her picture is sitting next to my grandchildren on the lowest shelf next to the computer. Give her our regards. I assume you got over that two-week bug and back at work?
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Hi Jim! We just got back from Children's Hospital a little while ago, and it is confirmed: after this week's and next week's injections, we are going back to oral MTX!! Woo hoo! I think Julia is happiest, of course, because she's been the one getting the needles, but we are happy about it, too. Jim, it is very touching to hear that you keep Julia's picture in such an honored place on your desk. Thank you for sharing that with me (and the rest of us!) Oh, my, yes, Thank The Lord, I am finally feeling better again. That virus was truly insidious and made me miserable for far too long. My wife still has it, she got is alost exactly a week after I did, so she still has a few days of misery ahead of her, if history hold sway. Ralph
Ralph Becker - JDMS Dad - Milford, MA <ralphb@whoever.com>
Moderator, JDM Board
Julia's JDMS Diary
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Hi (guilty) Ralph,
I hope your beautiful Julia is doing better.I bet she will be quite happy to drop the injections.I've only taken the oral mxt but wanted to say and send hugs to Julia.
Jan
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